Updated: Aug 17, 2019
Many times when coaching clients, I come across the same reasons … The ‘whys’ about why people have done what they have done in the past, and have lived the lives they have lived. And, many a time the answer is ‘Because I thought that’s what I should do’.
I’ve found that many of my clients have been living a life not for themselves but for others.
The challenge with this is that if you are living a life to please others, how do you keep on the right track for you? The reason I ask this question is simply because when faced with a choice or decision, would you then be making the decision based on what you want or, what you think someone else wants you to do?
Also if you are making the decision based on what you think someone else wants for you then you are taking yourself, your authentic self, many miles away from your true path in life, in effect you are not honouring YOU. Not only that, you are giving your power away.
What do I mean by this?
I believe that everyone has a gift to bring into the world, and the only way we can develop this gift and give it out into the world in an energy of service, is by being authentic with ourselves, coming from a place of confidence, integrity and self esteem so that we can make decisions based on what we need to do in order to grow as individuals.
To be true and congruent to yourself, your spiritual self and your own beliefs and values, is the greatest gift you can give yourself and the world. Unfortunately many people sacrifice themselves, this in fact serves no one it is a lose/lose scenario.
Don’t get me wrong, it’s good to help others, but as in all things there has to be balance and if your scales have tipped way off centre then it’s time to look at adjusting them.
Take the time to sit down and write down where you feel you are giving your power away, so that you can realign your energies and your sense of self –esteem in order to truly live the life you were destined to live and not the life someone else thinks you should be living.
Where in your life do you feel you are doing for others just because you think you ‘should’? Where are you selling yourself short and not giving yourself the gift of taking time out? Where are you making decisions just to please others?
By making small adjustments in your life to allow for your authentic self to shine, you will find that not only are you doing yourself a great service, but ultimately you are doing a great service to those around you because you will be happier, have more energy and be more in alignment with yourself and a more positive influence to the ones you love and care about.
Start today – Make a decision to be true to YOU!
Till next time...