Updated: Aug 16, 2019
Do you ever do that thing where you say to yourself, “when this (fill in the blank) has happened and when that (fill in the blank) has happened then I’ll be happy ? I know I have..
Or even, “when I have this (fill in the blank) or have achieved that (fill in the blank) then I’ll be happy?
We constantly put ourselves in a waiting room, playing the waiting game, although it’s not a game, it’s our lives and it can get painful …
Waiting to give ourselves permission to be happy only when we have achieved a certain goal or have acquired a certain thing, is one of the fastest ways I’ve found to self-destruction and it robs you of joy in the present moment too.
Why? … Because it shifts your focus from the present moment into a future time and when we are not in the present moment we become unbalanced pretty quickly.
When you are constantly focused on the future it means that energetically you are always leaning forwards, which means that the things you are doing now aren’t getting your full attention, the people you are with aren’t getting your full attention and you aren’t experiencing life to its fullest right now, in the present moment.
When you postpone your happiness by telling yourself “ When I have achieved a,b,c I’ll be happy”, what usually happens is something else crops up and the same ole phrase runs through your mind again, “when I’ve achieved x,y,z then I’ll be happy”.
The main thing I’ve realised is that as long as we are alive, there will always be something else to achieve, always some other goal to challenge ourselves with, it’s human nature after all to want to grow and expand ourselves, push our boundaries and test our limits, so why put these restrictions on happiness?
So, let’s do things a different way
If anything, why don’t we do it the other way around … For example, “I’ll be unhappy when…” and find ways to postpone our unhappiness instead … surely if anything that would be better?
Why not just give ourselves permission to be happy, just because… just because it’s Monday, or just because it’s Tuesday..
So let’s do it. Let’s make a pact, here and now with each other .. to be happy just because. No longer will we postpone our happiness until a time in the future, and while we’re at it.. instead of being happy, why don’t we be gloriously happy, singing and dancing happy… let’s not limit the good feelings we can have .. let’s expand them and focus on them ..
Because on the spiritual level what we focus on grows, right!…
Wishing you a fabulously happy day!
Till Next time...